Pregnancy Loss Awareness Month

I never thought I would be a person to fit into a certain "group" in society, but now I do. I have lost a child and now get my own month of awareness, yay for me -insert sarcasm here.

I am part of the 1 in 4 women who have to go through the hell of losing a child. Think about that for a moment 1 in 4... that is 25% of women have experienced a miscarriage/ baby loss or stillbirth. That. Is. Crazy. That means if you know 10 women then at least two have experienced a loss. Maybe its you or maybe its someone you know, either way you can spread awareness about this month. A simple post on social media or a text message of acknowledgement will suffice to honor a family member or friend who's lost a little one. If you have personally experienced a loss maybe you choose something a bit more like lighting a candle, looking at old photos, or a remembrance walk with other loss parents.

For me its this blog. A few months back when I began this journey with the loss of my son at 22 weeks, I searched for a honest, real resources of what this loss journey would look like. I found very few helpful resources, little support, and virtually no one who would talk about their loss(es). I want to change that. I want to break the silence and stigma surrounding pregnancy loss. If you want to know my story check out "The day the changed my life" page. I do not want to hide my loss...ever because that loss was my son, forever and always. I want to talk about my child and hope you will too.

How are you spreading awareness or honoring your child?

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  1. UnknownNovember 5, 2018 at 7:32 PM

    Love you so much. It is amazing and an honor to watch you take this pain and choose to create beauty and support for others through it.

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